Delusion Woman Tells Co-Worker It's Time To Remove His Wedding Ring Since His Wife Passed

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Jan 5, 2022 2:30 PM EST

Coworker to coworker relationships can be very delicate. You're with each other all the time, and as a result, you probably know a good amount about their life and values. But that doesn't necessarily mean you are close, or actual friends by any means. Sure, there's potential, but one shouldn't confuse casual kindness with genuine friendship. This is all to say if you think you're the one who needs to give your coworker some 'tough love,' maybe think extra hard about what your actual relationship is to them.

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    Font - Posted by u/Ideal-Mind3099 7 days ago (2 o 3 5 36 2 3 AITA for telling my new co worker it was misleading of him to be wearing his wedding band when he's a widower? Asshole
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    Font - Hi. A couple of weeks ago we had a new employee hired at the company. he's a good guy and a widower named "James" (36) and to my knowledge his late wife passed away 8 months ago. Me (f32) and the other coworkers got along well with him. However I noticed that he is still wearing his wedding band on his finger. It kind of confused me a bit and I couldn't help but bring it up with him while on lunch break.
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    Font - We talked and I pointed out that he was being misleading by still wearing his wedding band when he's a widower. He looked quite bothered by what I said but I tried to explain that I think that he was giving people the wrong idea or impression about his relationship status since he's technically single and on his own right now (don't want to sound cruel but I'm speaking from technical angle).
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    Font - James said that he didn't give it much thought (meaning he don't care what people think) and that even if he wasn't wearing his wedding band and some woman approached him he'd still turn them down since he's obviously not interested.
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    Font - For some reason things got awkward and everyone stopped eating and just stared at James and me. I told him I don't know but that really really felt generally misleading of him as in making people think he is in a relationship (married) when he is not regardless of how he felt about being in a relationship.
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    Font - He got upset, called me rude, and said that I repeatedly disrespected his marriage and his late wife's memory with what I said then took his stuff and walked away. My co workers said regardless of who is right or wrong (though some said he overreacted) there was no reason for me to bring this up on the first place and cause a scene and make James upset with us like that now he's not speaking to me and others who sided with me.
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    Font - AITA? Did I overstep or did he overreact? This was just a conversation we were casually having with the other co workers and I didn't use any insensitive tones or anything but we had a discussion and it suddenly turned into an argument. I tried to let things calm down but the situation got out of my hand unexpectedly.
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    Rectangle - jdwazzu61 · 7 days ago O 2 & 146 More Partassipant [1] YTA. A wedding ring isn't a sign to others you aren't available it's a commitment to a person you love. His wife might be dead but if he's not ready to move on than he's still committed to her. Your confusion about his status isn't his concern. 76.8k Share ...
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    Font - Early-Light-864 7 days ago S Asshole Aficionado [18] 2 5 e 3 12 YTA "I couldn't help but bring it up" Yes you could. Just stop talking. Help it next time. "For some reason things got awkward" The reason is that you're an AH and he doesn't ever want to speak to you again
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    Font - Padloq · 7 days ago e S3 Certified Proctologist [24] YTA and you most certainly overstepped. His wife only passed eight months ago, it's no surprise that he is still wearing his wedding band. He is not "misleading" anyone and it doesn't matter what people assume when they see the ring - what matters is that he still wants to wear it. How he feels about it is the only thing that matters.
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    Font - NefariousnessTiny383 · 7 days ago Partassipant [1] Omg. How horrible. Why is this your business or bother you at all. Also, he can wear for her memory. YTA
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    Font - JombieKiller · 7 days ago YTA. You have no right to tell someone how to represent themselves or grieve after losing their partner. You called them out on a "technicality" instead of being a compassionate person. The only one in the wrong here is you.
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    Font - dcm510 · 7 days ago S Colo-rectal Surgeon [35] YTA. You're insanely rude. To the point where I can't believe you actually don't realize that what you said is extremely inappropriate.
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